New Year's Eve

New Year's Eve was always special to me. My parents always went out and brought back noise makers and paper hats.

They would wake us up, with champagne and whiskey soaked kisses. News Year's Day would consist of mommy's biggest breakfast ever.

Fast forward as a young adult, I partied at every club in hampton roads,  hotel and house parties.
I established a tradition with my 2nd niece and always called her at 12 her time on new year's eve.

Who knew that I would meet  the love of my life on New Year's Eve.
2002, Sabrina and I stay overnight at a hotel in Norfolk.

She and I walked down stairs and there he was, resplendent in Armani.  I introduced myself and he ignored me.
I lit a cigar and here he comes. Our relationship began.
Our relationship has not been perfect.  We have endured bad decisions, ugly fights, death of loved ones, loss of jobs and cancer.
Yet we are still standing. He is my best friend and the love of my life. He is the second man that I know,  I can depend on. The first was my daddy.
Here's to champagne touched kisses and vodka/gin soaked laughter.  I will be spending New Year's Eve with the most important man in my life, My husband Terry.
Happy New Year folks..go into 2016 brave and bold!!

Love you..
Vick the Communication Diva
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Happy bday to my Daddy, my hero

20 yrs ago my daddy went into cardiac arrest. It was his birthday. He was 64. They kept him on life support until I came home. He died on January 3rd 1996. He was a perfectly imperfect man. He was my first hero. He was absolutely the bravest man I ever knew  in my life. He would do anything to support his family. He loved and adored his wife. He took care of everybody. I could depend on my daddy. He did not do everything right but he did something he always did something. I loved my daddy. I miss him. 20 years later he still impacts my life. I also think about how he would have loved my husband. His example was hard to follow but my husband does a good job of trying to be the man that I described my daddy to be to him. I miss you daddy. Happy birthday. Love your sissy , your Vickie Boose.

My daddy overcame and stood up to things that would have broken most men. I understand now, these mistakes,  these troubles. I and my husband made them.
However,  I am resilient.  My resilience comes directly for Ray C. My work ethic,  comes directly from Ray C.

I am his daughter and baby, I am damn proud of THAT!
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Christmas, resiliency and The New Normal

I understand for many Christmas is full of tears. I get it. I have spent Christmas balled up, face wet with ugly tears.
I had to lean. I leaned on God. I leaned on my husband.  I leaned on my Bell, Lyss and Williams family. I leaned on my friends. I leaned on THE Shield.
I urge you to embrace that you are NOT alone, but you must lean on what YOU know is true, steAdy and dependable.  I promise you that in time the pain will subside, the wound in your heart will scar and you will enter into a new normal that will be strong and full of love and powerful pleasant memories.
#Resiliency

Stunned at the loss of a visionary

On Friday, I was stunned by the loss of one of my Sorors, Bonita Jackson Butler aka BeeJae.

I came across BeeJae in the late 90s, she had started a website known as DeltaNet. She was instrumental in the National Chapters internet presence.

Intelligent, forthright, candid and sometimes snarky, she knew the business of Delta and all its nuances and protocols.  I befriended her again in 08, in another web presence.  I soon found her to be funny and friendly.  She was compassionate and generous.  I soon embraced her humor and snarkness..she meant no harm.

I soon reveled in her internet love story, Her Larry.  He became joyfully her knight in shiny armor. I gained strength and hope from her stroke battle and hope from the love and support she received from her ,Larry.
When her mother died, I reached out...but did not follow up..I am sadden by that.

When, I learned of her kidney disease,  I shuddered as this was my mom's demise. I still had hope. Hope that with her Larry, she would overcome this too.

I was stunned to learn that was not to be. I am sadden by her passing and I am hopeful that the sorors in Delaware and the Grand Chapter come out to honor one of our visionaries.

BeeJae you will be missed and you were loved by many.

What a day!!

What a day! 
Emotional,  necessary, educated, prepared,stumbled, apologized, was loved on,  was missed, was recognized, thankful .

Love, friendship and Loss

Yesterday, I attended the funeral of my classmates mother. It was full of love and laughter. 

I saw my mother's best friend and she hugged me so hard, I thought that I would break.
She was glad to see me. She missed me. I saw some of my mom's friends, I did not know them, but they knew me.  The smiles and looks of love, warmed my heart.

I then wondered, why is it so hard for me to reach out to these lovely people,  is it because I am envious that they are still here and mama, is not.
Its been seven years,  I got to get past that. I pledge to reach out. I don't want to go to another funeral, without having said my I love yous, in the present.

Thankful

November is the month of Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving was a favorite holiday of my parents.
Our house was filled with people,laughter, food and love.

Then, Ray C. Passed. Thanksgiving died for me. Mom and I, sometimes Kenny would meet at a restaurant.

Then Mom almost died on Thanksgiving day,...my heart stopped and so did thanksgiving.
The next year, on the Sunday before thanksgiving,  she died.
My heart broke. For 7 yrs,I mourned her, daddy and Thanksgiving. 

On, the 7th anniversary of her death my heart stop hurting;  I had found peace. I was able to give thanks for them, their lives.

Many have suffered insurmountable and tragic losses. The pain seems unbearable.  I ask you in that moment,  to give thanks. Thanks for the time you had, joy you had, love you had and the presence you had.

On 11/30/15, be Thankful, I am.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Confirmation

8 weeks ago, I piloted a communication certfication program.  I was nervous. I never wrote lesson plans or a curriculum before. 

It was bumpy in the beginning, but I saw the impact, the evolution at the end.

On Saturday,  I supported my line sister as her 2nd daughter and baby girl crossed over into our beloved sorority.  I hopefully educated new and former sorors about the importance of our jewels and to uplift and uphold the tenements of our sisterhood.

Our lives are moving forward, we must believe in us and our dreams. We must support us and our dreams. We will experience push back and we will misstep;  but we press on.

Reach out and touch someone's hand and make this world a better place if you can. This is all we can and need to do.

Vick the Communication Diva
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My mountain, your molehill

A few days ago, I participated in a training on trauma informed care.
I learned that violent and inappropriate behavior is often linked to some type of trauma. What is important to know is that trauma can manifest it's self in many forms.

Normally, when one thinks of trauma;  we think of abuse or a violent event. What I learned is that a traumatic event is WHAT ever you determine impacts you in a detrimental manner.

Last week, I had forgotten to check my mailbox.  I went to the main post office and the postman laid me out.  He lectured me. I was aghast and felt stupid.

Then this week, I did it again! I was so embarrassed.  I asked my husband to get the mail. He was too busy. I had to go. I started to have anxiety.  I walked to the counter and broke down in tears. Bubbling, catch your breath, ugly face tears. I just couldn't face that dude again. Thank fully an understanding postal worker helped me. He apologized and I got myself together.

I came home and eventually told my hubby.  He was like why would you let a man upset you so bad. He wouldn't discuss it with me. Fine but I know why, I got so upset. I hate to make mistakes.  I hate to repeat mistakes, especially simple ones. I hate to be fussed at. It hurts when I cannot reply or respond.  You just cannot act out or raise your voice in a post office, it's a federal offense.

My daddy used to say what is a mole hill to someone is a mountain to someone else. You never know someone's journey. Before, you assume their actions are impulsive, their actions may simply because of some traumatic event in the past.

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Grace

Do you ever review your post? Do you see a theme? I have. I have been going through stressful situation.  Some of my own doing, some just life.

This past week was rough and literally cloudy. I had forgotten about God's grace. I remained focused on mistakes,  illnesses,  money and pain.

I had unexpected financial expenses,  loved ones facing medical challenges,  folks lied and I was mislead. Instead,  I should have focused on God's grace. We had money to fix what was broke. My love one is able to get treatment.  I have regrouped and reassessed my focus on my business.

I am paying attention to folks. I am saying no. I am staying positive.  I am reaching out to my family and friends.  I understand that I will stumble,  make mistakes and bad choices. However,  I also will get up, I will recover from mistakes and make good choices.

I am walking in his Grace.

Vick the Communication Diva
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People

Struggle

I am struggling. I have to fight through the fear. I want to just be fearless. I am confused as to why this struggle seems to return like a bad penny.

I have everything.  I am in business for myself. I am making a living.  I have a smart, faithful,  handsome,  funny, loving and supportive husband.  I have great friends and sorors. Yet, happiness eludes me. Is it because,  I miss my mom? Is it because its my birthday? Is it because success is around the corner if I work just a little harder? Why don't I feel that I deserve success? Oh, the struggle,  oh the fucking struggle.

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ECSU homecoming

I needed this. Re confirmation of your value.  Homecoming.
My school.  My friends.  My sorors and "bros"-ques/kappas/sigmas/grooves /aphiqu and my sisters -aka,zeta,sigma Gamma rhos..

As soon as I hit the North Carolina border. .I relax. I hit Ec I am giddy. I walk on campus....I really am Vickie Chill.

I hung out with sorors that I looked up to...I so enjoyed them. I hung with my ls and family. I hung with my villa gang sorors.  I continued to build love friendship with sorors of different lines.

This weekend is so important to me. It recharges me. You have no idea as to how positive words..received and given can touch and empower. This weekend words of love and friendship was given. Support was given effortlessly.  Hugs and hospitality.

This is homecoming.  This is Ecsu homecoming.  This is HBCU Homecoming.
#thisishomecominecsustyle #onceayearessential

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Why Me?

I fucked up. I was chasing the money and forgot about the process.  I was chastised and in hindsight; I was wrong.

I did not get the part time opportunity that I was perfect for and was perfect for me. I am disappointed again. I just dont get it and I am sadden about it.
However, I move on.

Lesson one, Never Chase the Dollar.
Lesson two, Remember the process and your role in it.
Lesson three, Let it Go.

Life fucks with you. Yet, we still got to fuck with life. No matter, what...as long as we are alive....we got to keep pushing...even if we are the cause of the fuck up.

Vick the Communication Diva
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My anniversary

Today is my 7th anniversary.  7 yrs ago all was right in my world. My family was intact. My mom was alive. I married my best friend.  T and I have been through everything together. Sickness and health. Richer and poorer. Crazy ass highs and fucked up lows. We stand.

I often look back at other relationships and I think of what could of been; then  I say naaaa...God gave me T. The smartest,  slickest, funnest,  finest and toughest dude ever. T loves me. T likes me. T is absolutely the best dude for me. He is the dude who comes through in a clutch. He is the first man to give me a ring. He makes me laugh and smile. I feel safe. He is the first man to believe in me. He is my safe haven. He is the first man to make me feel safe.

They say you marry your Daddys,  I agree. My daddy with all his "stuff" was the best man in the world and I am so glad God saw fit to bring a man like my daddy to me.

Happy anniversary T. You are the love of my life and at times the bane of my existence and I would not have it any other way.

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Rug pulled out or push forward

I just found out the last of my retirement funds will come this month.

Just like when unemployment ran out. I am nervous. I will get a very small retirement. But it will all be on me and Terry. I got to push forward and create business, this aint a game folks, this is real.

I can do this.
The rug has not been pulled out, I just got a harder push going forward.

I can do this!!!

I will do this!! There are folks with greater barriers then me , doing it.

No shorts, I got this...

Vick the Communication Diva
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Hope

On 9/30/15, Newport News Rentry Council launched our 1st job fair. We had 15 employers and 50 participants. We had Mr. Zarif who inspired and electrified the audience.  We had speakers who were informative about the bonding program and how participants can report any discrimination allegations.

We received rousing accolades from employers, participants and speakers. 

We only have a committee of 6 and we made it happen.  Our goal was to ensure that our participants did not waste their time and we were ensured that they did not.
Most of all, we saw men and women with their heads held up high.

On 9/30/2015, we learned what HOPE looked like.

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Dreams, Motivation and follow through

I got dreams. Big ones. I have spotty motivation and follow through.
Things are happening and I am pushing through.
In the last seven days, I have been thrown under the bus, inspired people, broke a shoe, lost things, been inspired by people, been inspired by sorors, been confused, gained clarity and finally rested.

I need to pick a day for my todo list, a list that I write to break up my days to address my projects.

As you see, my week was not perfect. It was filled with hills and valleys. I fell and stumbled. I got up.
I have no idea what today will bring, I just know that as long as I am alive and competent, I will bring my A game.

Today, take a moment to be quite and reflect. Plan and prepare. Move through your mess, identify your purpose and stake your goal.

Follow up and follow through.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Safety, Trust, Polite and who really has your back

I am in business. Although, I have a benevolent spirit; I am here to make money. I have a trusting spirit; but I am far from a fool.

I speak of boundaries and yet I blur the lines. This comes from my need for confirmation. Why is that? That's why folks talk. We want our feelings, thoughts and ideas validated.

This is different spin. This is business. I can help but not at the cost of my business. I can trust,but not at the cost of my business. I can talk, but not details,  not secrets,  not at the cost of my business. 

Who has you back? Everyone doesn't. But, for real everyone shouldn't be. Lines need to be drawn and the lines need to clear.

Every body friendly aint your friend. Everyone who says they have your back, doesn't. You know who does and who does. Peoples tell you and show you.

Business is real. This ain't play play. Business is poker, chess, monopoly, spades and tunk...stay alert folks and lets do this.

It's Just Business

I have bid on a contract. I was told that the organization was going in a different direction. I was told that they were in negotiations with the other company.

My husband called  bull shit. I spoke to my VTEC contract consultant. I explained the situation. She reviewed my documentation and ascertained that I completely qualified. She did not even understand how the other company was in the running.

She called the agency on my behalf and advised the Procurement contact that she knew the other organization did not qualify according to their addendum.

Wow , wow....now the Procurement contact says that I am still in the running.  Witf...

I was about to get the ok doke. Wow...I am honest and honorable and was about to get cheated.

Pay attention folks, you are the captain of ship and the master of your fate. Favor aint fair and business is  business. So, follow up and follow through....dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Success, am I afraid of success

I have been asked if I am afraid of success. ...I want to say, no of course not. But that would be a lie. I am and I don't know why.

I am always surprised at my accomplishments, almost as if I don't deserve them,  almost as if someone will take them back. My husband does not get it, I don't either. I am smart and a hard worker. I have overcome obstacles that would cripple most folks.
Yet, I doubt me.

Why? I could go back to  my childhood, my crazy daddy, my college years and my first boyfriend. Was it my cancer, my fires,  my bestfriend dying of aids, my dad dying oe finding my mommy dead. Or, was it the firing from my job. My brother, thinks it was my first real job, I was failing and I bailed. That's been almost 30 yrs. It does, infect ...me...like cancer.

I am not weak by any means, but I am flesh and bone. I am tough, but  I carry a hurt....I know I deserve success, I just got to believe it, too.

Vick the Communication Diva
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OPN-DOOR COMMUNICATIONS

I have trainings scheduled and need schedule mediations. I just purchased promotional products.
I can't believe it. I am truly on my way.

I still have proposals to bid on and promotions to plan. I invest in me and I see the results.

I just got to believe in my capabilities. I am great at what I do. I inspire and empower.

I am Vickie R. Williams-Cullins, Executive Director of Opn-Door Communications and I am here to provide you with the knowledge and tools that will allow you to communicate with purpose.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Wow...just Wow

The last week has been just wow. . Opportunities have presented themselves and I have taken them.

My committee showed up and showed out.

My sorority lost icons and I was truly sadden.

Then, a man killed 2 people on the news. On tv. He live tweeted it. I said a silent prayer, hoping he was not black. I was wrong. He was black. Now folks are trying to say it's a Hate crime. Ah no. It was a senseless murder, by a man who had some issues.  No excuses. Just sadness at the senseless loss of lives.

Vick the Communication Diva 

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Stay the course, the struggle is worth it

Are struggling? Do you have goals, visions and dreams? Do you feel discouraged or dismayed? Do you feel envy or jealousy because your friends seemly have better jobs, bigger homes or cars?
Stop. Just stop. Stop the video of past failures and mishaps that is constantly running in your head. It's time to change the tape. Give yourself credit for ANY success.
Next step, you must stop comparing. 
Comparing breeds envy and jealously. It rarely inspires.

The struggle is real. However, the strength that it creates is paramount as that is what will propel you to meet your goals.

Folks may be doing the same thing as you. You will have competition. You will have naysayers. However, if is divinely designed for you; noone can stop you from receiving it, not even you.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Loss, regret, missed opportunities, love

This has been a week of losses, missed opportunities,  love and frustration.
The window,  dishwasher and roof is leaking. Money is flowing, but the budget is tight. Then there are losses. Losses of people. Missed opportunities to get to know people.  People you can learn from. Yet you struggle, yet I struggle.  I don't seem to have enough time. Then they move to the other side.

Then regret seeps in. You miss them and then you relive your loved ones passing, the ones your heart aches for. You are sad. You recover, but it always there, you know regret.  Do something.  Don't let regret find a home in your heart.

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Today, oooh today

Today, I woke up tired and irritated. I got a lot of stuff going on.
Business projects, Delta projects and  community projects.

I am being pulled because  of my expertise and reputation. I am knowledgeable and passionate. I am relatable and a hardworker.

I am thrilled about my accomplishments and my recognition. I also need to organize. I need to prioritize.
I need to say no.

It was not necessary for me to be irritated. I just chose to be. I allowed a situation to impact me negatively.

Aggggggggghhh. Sometimes, you got to kick the can. Sometimes, you got to say .....f.cuk it...

By the way..its ok to be funky and have a funky day; just learn to balance as well as prioritize. Saying no with no explanation and yes with out regret, can help.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Be brave, be Fuckin brave Today

Being brave is easier said then done. Bravery and courage are thrown around like petals at a wedding. Saying you can, should or that you are going to be brave are hopeful statements. Being brave is a action statement.

When life shifts and pushes you out your comfort zone, you are being brave when you face it and deal with it. Bravery is what and how I have chosen to react to life.

Regardless of what is thrown my way, I steel myself and deal. We all got that bravery switch. It is in all of us, the challenge is many of us are not brave enough to turn the switch on.

So, today your action statement is to be Fuckin Brave.
Vick the Communication Diva
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Quiet Time

I love when, I have a moment in the morning to drink coffee and think. I have a very busy day.

Workshop development. Meeting with clients. Meeting with Executive team. I got a lot going on and I am thankful to do what I love. Which is to imform*excite*empower people to do and be who they desire to be.

To strengthen their frailties and launch their gifts.

I am blessed and inspired to turn my mess into a message.

I dream big over a cup of coffee during the silence of the morning.

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This week

I have been shown God's grace. I have exhibit leadership. 80 % of a project is completed. I have inspired and been inspired.
I was surrounded by millionaires and powerful people. I met entrepreneurs who are building their businesses and entrepreneurs who have achieved greatness.

I have met the gate keepers and the pretenders.

Information and confirmation of my GREATNESS  was poured into me like water from a vessel.

My role is to discount naysayers, create, coach, follow up, follow through and close.

Opn-Door Communications is poised to be global mediation and training firm that I envisioned.

Nothing can stop my destiny, nothing but me.

Vick the Communication Diva
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This Week...

This week was full of sounds. You know,  groan, ugh,blowing ..no words. I learned the art of follow up. I hate to follow up.
I had thought  that people would just call back. But peoples priorities shift and it is my role to ensure that shift back.

T explained the necessity of follow up. His explanations were harsh. I don't receive them well, they reminded me of my dad. On the other hand he is right.

Follow up, is a necessary task. It is a must do,  if YOU plan to grown your business.

Well, I followed up and I have appointments, deals that I will close. All, the while in my pajamas..
Pretty cool, huhn

(T was right, #groan)

Vick the Communication Diva
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Thankful

On my way to the post office, I saw a couple with a sign saying they were homeless.
After my business, I asked if they wanted something to eat from rallys, they said yes. I went and bought  them lunch big buffords, large fries, large soda and a apple fritter. I got out my car and delivered it to them.

They were so thankful, the gentleman gave me a hug and shook my hand.
It warmed my heart.
I too am struggling. I have spent my savings on my business. I often worry about how I will pay my bills...but I am thankful for todays. 

Today, I had extra money to bless someone else. My classmate blessed me with $, when I tried to return it; he refused. He said don't block his blessings.

Today, I press on and continue on my journey.

Today, if you can lend a helping hand; you have no idea how you can bless someone and how the blessing will enhance your life too!!

#Pressingonclubmember

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Sandra Bland

Sandra Bland was a member of Sigma Gamma Rho. She was a young black woman on her way to a new job. She was stopped for a tail light violation. She asked the question: "Why was she stopped?". She smoked a cigarette in her car and was told to put it out. She was arrested and placed in a cell. Twenty four hours, she was dead. The police officer lied about the incident. Sandra is dead. Dead for no reason. #deathbycop #sayhername The irony is she was outspoken about the plight of black America. She believed #blacklivesmatter. They (POLICE) say it was suicide. We don't believe it.
#sayhername#sandyspeaks#sandrabland
#panhelllove
#yoursistergreeksstandwithyourfamily

What will it take for this to stop? An educated black woman on her way to a new gig and she is arrested and murdered?
Miss me with all lives matter . Right now, we focus on #blacklivesmatter. We got to stop this or pretty soon it will be open season and we will have no redress or recourse.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Loyalty

When does loyalty stop?
After the betrayal?  How deep does it need to cut?
Do you forgive? Should you?
When is it ok, just to be ok? Just ok with the broken pieces?

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This week

This week.....whew.  This week has seen change. Change in my family, my friends families and the United States. The Confederate flag came down. My friends suffered the losses of pivotal male figures in their lives. Pivotal male figures in my life set boundaries and demanded accountability.

I laughed with my play cousin and was inspired as well as subsequently blessed by old friends.

I and my bestie combined forces and presented an excellent program to key decision makers. I was notified that I was selected for a conference workshop and would be presented with a mou for services.

Last night at a party, I was presented an opportunity and I still have lingering projects that I must bring to fruition.

Life is often a kaleidoscope. It is full of light and darkeness. It shimmers and dances. It shocks and soothes. We try to catch it, stop it and control it; yet we can't. What we forget is that we aren't supposed to.

We got to roll with life. We got to get out of its way. This week has been full of excitement, strife, experiences, stress, love, loss, confusion,  pain, joy and love.

However, I made it through and will continue each day that I get that opportunity.

Life is lightening in a bottle, don't try to catch it or you may get burned. Just enjoy it, be mesmerized by it, be inspired by it, be soothed by it and learn from it.

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Faith

The last few days have been trying. Family is in conflict and friends have lost fathers and brothers.

Husband is stressed about my inaction so he acts out towards me. Money is tight and choices have to be made.

Then there is today; the day me and my bestie go before a group  to explain and defend our purposal.
This is a first for me, I am excited and strangely calm.

Normally, my family's pain would infect me and my husband's nasty barbs would upset me. They didn't.
Today is my day. I will step up and step out

I have learned not to allow pain to stop me. It doesn't motivate me not does it paralyze me.
That is growth.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Friendship

This weekend was wonderful. I was apprehensive, because I had a big project that I was nervous about. I did not want to be away from my husband for the weekend.

I shouldn't have been. I enjoyed the ride and the company of women that I had an unique connection with. Not only are we friends but we are also sorors. 

We have married, been divorced, had children, lost parents, lost siblings, lost jobs, bought homes, started businesses and survived chronic illnesses.

We laughed, drank, ate, fussed, hugged and encouraged each other. It was necessary for me to be there. I am truly grateful for the love.

Thank you Villa Gang, Thank you. 

ECSU
Villa Gang
Delta Chi
Delta Sigma Theta Inc
Vickie chill

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Fear mongering

Same sex marriage is legal in all 50 states. The Confederate flag is being hailed as a symbol of white heritage. Donald Trump spoke disparaging of Mexicans and was swiftly dealt with. Black churches are being tourched. The klu klux klan is marching on Charleston to save their flag.

Racist white folks are participating in fear mongering events. They want to scare folks who support equality.

They are a minority but are financially stable. We must come together and stand together against the racist homophobic zealots.

United we stand, divided we fall.

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Gay marriage

I believe in gay marriage, always have. I believe adults have a right to love another adult. I believe homosexuality is normal. I support the LGBT community. Always have. I think being bi, is a bit greedy...but hey do you.

I believe in honesty. I believe that one should live their truth, without fear of harm.
I am glad the Supreme Court of the United States of America agrees with me.

I am good if you don't agree, but it is the law, so respect it.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Racism. ..Confederate flag...Rascist

When I see a confederate flag, I shudder. I associate it with, death, fear mongering and subjugation blacks. It has been a week since the Charleston murders and we now have the discussion. It was asserted that the murderer wrote a manifesto and the Confederate flag was featured on his website.

Now we take it down. Millions are still trying  to buy it from Amazon before they cease selling it. Our Governor has demanded the Confederate license  plate be removed. Other states have followed suit. Wow, the Confederate flag is going down, Walmart, eBay,  sears won't sell it.

Yet, we talking about the President using the  word nigger. A word that he is called on a daily basis. Removing the Confederate flag is a start; but not the solution. We have to have the conversation. We have to respect differences. We have to see color, if we don't we assume everything is safe and everything is ok. Well it's not.

Nine people died Last Wednesday at the hands of a young white man. This man is from the Millennium generation. The generation that grew up without only white water fountains. Grew up with the Cosby show. Grew up with Jay-Z and Beyonce and yet he was compelled to start a race war by murdering black people in a historic church.

Racism exist folks, we got to educate our children on the beauty of diversity. Educate our country on the necessity of diversity. It's not the differences that divide, it's the fear that someone different will subjugate you.

Racism is alive, well and growing. Are you brave enough within your sphere of influence to stop it?

Vick the Communication Diva
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Forgiveness

Last week, I found out my chapter soror's grandfather was killed in this tragic event.

Their family and the other families chose to forgive the shooter.

I get it. My family has experienced tragedy, as my uncle murdered my grandfather when I was a baby. My father chose to forgive his brother n law. We moved on as a family with the trajectory of our life forever changed.

Forgiveness is for the injured; for their peace. I continue to pray for their peace and strength.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Racist acts are not the acts of the mentally ill

I am still in shock about what happened in Charleston.  I can barely sleep. I go from intense anger to extreme saddness. I wonder if this is how my mom felt when she heard about the 4 little girls murdered in a church in Alabama.

I am saddened and angry. I want folks to know that while we had given a stage to a white girl in black face; a monster was plotting.

While we ignored the boiling pot of racist planning to eradicate any black man or woman attempting to just live; a monster was planning.

While our police have made a habit of killing our black women,girls, men and boys; a monster was planning and plotting.

While black America was asleep at the wheel; these racist domestic terrorist are planning a takeover. They infiltrate media and the Internet with fear of  a black planet and yet they are who we should fear.

While white America was asleep  at the wheel; their brethren have become fear mongers and because the conversation of race Is so UNCOMFORTABLE,  they giggle at the jokes and agree with the stereotypes.

Make no mistake, racist monsters are bred and cultivated to engage in these heinous acts. They aren't mentally ill. So, miss me with the excuses and speak up and act out.
Ignorance and fear creates this evil; but apathy creates the climate that allows it to manifest and explode.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Church massacre

Church is designed to be a sanctuary. A place of safety and peace. Last night this sanctuary was violated. A young white man walked into the oldest A ME Church in the world and opened fire. This gunman is still at large. He killed 9 people. Nine people.

I am dumbfounded. Wednesday night bible study is a tradition in the black community. I am sick. These parishioners were slaughtered. Slaughtered.

Evil may have entered God's house , but make no mistake, HIS vengeance will be swift and mighty.

May God keep the bereaved strong and Charleston safe. May this Cretan be captured alive.

http://www.msnbc.com/msnbc/charleston-police-church-shooting

Happy b day Bob

Today is my mom's birthday. today she would have been 81. we would have went shopping we would have gotten our nails done and we would have dinner my mother was an absolutely a remarkable woman. she was smart and she was pretty. s rest exquisitely she was my buddy she was telling that I chose to emulate. She was my hero and I miss her.

This week!## Rachel

This week sees the world aghast at the unmitigated gall of rachel dolezal 's deception. For years, she has stated that she was black. This is the ultimate catfish. Her parents called her out, she was born white.

Much discussion had been made on twitter, facebook, instagram and other forms of social media.  Some lauded the civil rights work that she performed in the community. Some stated that she should be forgiven. Others are disturbed and upset about her behavior. Some are upset with her parents for divulging her secret.

I am disappointed in her behavior. I am disgusted with her deception. I believe she had sociopathic tenacities. Her level of deceit was so egregious; she believed it.

I believe in forgiveness and accountability. She had owned nothing. That disturbs me. Her comfortability with assimilation into a culture and heritage that is historically marginalized is maddening.

The fact that folks are ok with this...is unbelievable.

I am a proud black woman. I am not ok, not ok at all.

So miss me with the sympathy; I got bigger fish to fry...such as #blacklivesmatter,  police brutality, poverty, and building my community.

Go get help miss  rachel...

http://bluenationreview.com/dear-rachel-a-letter-from-goldie-taylor-to-racheldolezal/#ixzz3cuCBrDdI

7 years of survivorship

Today is National cancer survivor's day.

Survivorship is not easy. One may feel survivor's guilt. One may suffer from side effects of chemo or numerous surgeries. One may fear that the beast could come back.

Cancer survivorship is not sexy. Some of us suffer from body disfigurement. Low self-esteem. Loss of bodily functions. Low sex drive. Sexual promblems. Lack of understanding and support. Poor or no insurance.
Yet, we stand. We are courageous but not heroes. Yet, we stand. We are brave and scared. Yet, we stand. We fight even when our friends think the fight is over.

We stand. We fight. We battle and one fuckin day, we will win this motherfucking war.

But, until then, we stand.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Views, opinions, standing your ground

Last night at dinner; catlyn Jenner was mentioned as a punch line. I didnt like it. She was called it. I corrected the dinner party. She identified as she. They seemed   uncomfortable with transgendered; I was uncomfortable with their bias.

I stood my ground. I did not find the jokes funny nor did engage in laughter. I acknowledged you may not like it,but it is who she is.
She is not an it. She is not a shim.

Don't be mad if the lgtb community is protected, just embrace the differences and miss me with the denigrating comments.
Everyone is not bias nor do they engage in bigotry behavior.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Bullies

Have you ever been bullied? I have. The bulling started when my family came to Virginia. I was in the 4th grade and Î was teased for "talking white".
As time went on, I was teased for dressing white and being goofy. I was teased for not being able to hang out with the cool kids and being chubby.

I dumbed down and tried to fit in.  Fast forward to college. I lost weight and made friends. I excelled in school and got boyfriends. I was selected to be a member of Delta Sigma Theta. The pledge period was one of the worst times of my life. I was bullied viciously. They attempted to break my spirit and my will. I made it through. I became a DELTA.  At that point in my life, I had never experienced adulation. It was wild and then respect. Offers of friendship from the very women who bullied me....not. 

I made life long friends and moved on to adult hood. I obtained a great gig and was overwhelmed and bullied by my boss and subordinate.

My self esteem was shot. I remained under employed and took no risk. I obtained  a masters and certifications. I started a business and became engaged in the community. Slowly my self esteem rose. I excelled. Then, I obtained  a job that I could not master. Over and over, I tried. I felt bullied by management. My self esteem crumbled. I eventually was fired. For a moment, I was lost. Lost.

I pulled myself together. I refuse to allow bullies or bullying to steal my self esteem  or devalue my worth.

Funny thing the women that bullied or teased me, we are now friendly. I am now considered  a role model, someone to emulate.who...knew.

Hurt people, hurt people. We all have the potential to bully; we must resist this compulsion. Simply because our words may be the very weapon to send someone over the edge.

Vick the Communication Diva 

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Tolerance and acceptance

Yesterday, Bruce Jenner revealed Catlin Jenner.  Bruce is transgendered and has decided to live in his truth. Yesterday, the play cousin and his friends engaged in discourse about tolerance.

tol·er·ance [tol-er-uh ns] Show IPA

— noun

a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc., differ from one's own; freedom from bigotry.
a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward opinions and practices that differ from one's own.

I never thought it was a bad word, however the play cousin and friends opened my mind to a different view. They shared indifference and lack of willingness to evolve and grow. I had to think about it, am I indifferent when I tolerate folks who so not share my values or beliefs. Hmmmmmm.  This thread,encouraged me to twist the prism for real and in real-time.
Their passion opened my eyes to another view.

I still tolerate folks. I don't have to like or love you. You do not have to share my views. You dont have to like or love me. I want you to respect me, but if you don't, I get that to.

As an alternative dispute resolution professional, sometimes all I can get folks to do is tolerate each other. Respect isn't even in the picture and like/love isn't even in the cards.

Tolerance and the courage to set boundaries is sometimes the only tools in the box.

I am proud of Catlin Jenner. I am proud that she is living her life in truth and liberty. It takes courage to be open in this new word. A word comprised of internet courage and keyboard bullies, who will not hesitate to viciously tear a person apart.

A lot of folks don't understand her need to no longer be a him.
I hope folks can respect his choice, if not tolerate his moves and fix your own backyard,  there is nothing broken here.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Safe haven

Do you have a safe haven? A person or a place? A place where you are comforted. A person who you trust. It could be a room or a church. It could be your boo or your friend. It could be your sorors or your sistah girls.

If your safe haven is a person or persons, these folks hold your confidence and lift you up. If they talk amongst themselves about you it is for the good of you. They collectively have come together to help you feel or do better. If you argue you are forgiven. You can say anything and be who you need to be. You do not have to be "on". You do not have to be perfect. This is a safe zone. No judgement. You have history and your history of shared experiences strengthen your bond.

You can create a place that is safe and comfortable. You cannot create people who are safe havens. This comes through trial and error. You will get angry maybe even refuse to talk for years. What I will tell you is this; the universe will bring you back together. God knows your needs. You will recognize that the conflict; although necessary, is no longer strong enough to keep you apart.

I remain thankful for my safe havens; these women hold me down and up. I remain grateful for their gifts of love and friendship.

I am hopeful that you recognize and embrace your safe havens; before it is too late.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Doubt

Don't doubt your capabilities.
No one was born an expert.
You can do this and if you cannot, you can hire someone who can.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Proposal

The last week has been challenging. I have been sick and subsequently tired, yet I have a proposal on the horizon. I and my bestie have been diligently working. We have two different styles, she is a night owl and I am early bird. She is working full time and is a full time mother. I am an entrepreneur and a wife. We are making it work. We have partners who support  us.

We are both driven and determined that the proposal will be completed on time and will be a winning proposal.

FTP
Faith-Tenacity-Purpose
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Rest, relax and restore

I go a mile a minute. I am building a business. I am an officer in my sorority. I volunteer. I am a friend. I am a wife. I am a doggy mom. I am a community activist. I am all these things, but the last two days, I needed rest.
Remember to rest, if not you will be no good for anyone.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Good morning

The end of a challenging week and the beginning of a new one. Today, as I drink my coffe, I once again reflect on my mother. My mother, the accidental entrepreneur. For years my father was the provider. He owned a successful business, lost it and went to jail.

He got out and could not find steady work. He decided that my mother should start a janitorial company because as a felon, he was ineligible for government contracts. She agreed. He would be the advisor. She and I would own it.
Ok, we said. Then he got sick. Cancer and lasted 2 years. My mom was on her own. She figured it out. Figured it out and ran a successful profitable business for 10 years.

My mom was brilliant and I am following in her foot steps.

Sometimes, God divinely interferes. We must listen. We must have faith. Thank you, God...i hear you.

Thank you mama, I hear you to.

Vick the Communication Diva
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As Mother's Day approaches

As mother's day approaches, many will celebrate and many will grieve. Please be sensitive to those who lost their moms as even though they may be mothers, they miss theirs so very much.

For us whose mothers have gone on to glory, please be mindful of the universal " mothers' day salutation," especially if the person receiving it is not a mother.

For us, who have lost a child, be extra kind as though we are still mothers, it hurts.

For us, whose mothers are mentally ill or suffering from dementia, be extra kind as we miss them and we may not be able to reach them on mothers day.

Also, if you are having challenges with your mom, reach out and just say: " I know you did the best you can and I wish you well." I say that , because you may not be able to say you love them, they may not deserve your love, but most certainly do not wish them harm, wish them well...your soul will be satisfied. ‪#‎mothersdaypsa‬

Fearlessness and unafraid of rejection

http://www.blackenterprise.com/small-business/clothier-rick-moore-teams-with-multinational-computer-company-to-designer-wearable-tech/

Professional Organizations

When you are an entrepreneur, you are soon to be overwhelmed with classes on how to be: in business,  get business, get contracts, get loans, keep business, advertise your business and networking.

Rarely, do you hear about the importance of professional organizations. I own a self professed communication company. I am a Mediator, trainer and workshop developer.
I have found professional organizations to be helpful. I belong to the Virginia mediation network and the hampton roads parent education network. These organizations provide me with best practices ,opportunities to network and collaborate.

Explore the professional organizations in your field as they can be an excellent tool in your success kit.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Mother's Day...is painful

I am not an orphan,  I had parents. I am not a mother, so please don't wish me happy mother's day. I had a mother. She was funny, smart, annoying, over bearing, driven, cute, loving, supportive and thoughtful.
We had the best time together. She was open to everyone and everything. She had a strong faith in God and loved her husband. She loved and supported her children. She took great joy in knowing and loving her grandchildren. She was the best mother n law. Supportive, loving and just a little nosey/judgemental.  Lol.
When she died, my world crumbled. I felt as if my heart had been snatched from my chest.
Holidays, Mother's Day and birthdays were big for Bobbie Jean.
She celebrated them and she liked you to celebrate her. Man did we celebrate her. .clothes..suits..shoes. .cards...concerts. trips..dinners..lunches. .brunches..boat rides...jewelry. .perfume..plays..massages. She would clap and giggle and laugh. Her crooked grin would warm my heart. Since she left, mother's day has been painful sometimes heartbreaking.
The ritual of celebrating her is gone.
I am not a orphan. I am not a mother less child. I am a daughter whose mother died and whose mother is missed. Missed very much.
Please be kind and empathetic to to folks who are in this position. .just be kind.

I am Vickie Renea Williams  Cullins and I am the proud daughter of Bobbie Jean Williams and I always will be.
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http://justjennarose.pazoo.com/grief/letter-motherless-daughters-mothers-day/

Entrepreneurship

This is small business week. Entrepreneurship ain't for everyone. Maybe you jumped into this with flags waving and a money cushion. Maybe you were fired and noone would hire you. Maybe you had just an idea and a dream. Maybe you are a multi level marketer.

If you are doing IT, full time you are brave, you are courageous and a tad bit crazy. You should remember everyone will not believe in your dream or support your vision. Folks may attempt to dissuade you. Know your dream. Embrace your vision. Learn  from others. Stay fluid and flexible.
It's not that it  can it not be done,
It is it just has not be done yet.

To be a entrepreneur means you are pretty special. To be a full time entrepreneur means you are amazing.  A risk taker. Embrace your gifts and make it happen!!

Vick the Communication Diva
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Deepest Fear

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

Reflection

As I sit here drinking my coffee with no where to go and lots to do. I reflect. I reflect on triumphs and tragedies. Mistake and mishaps. Goals reached and goals missed. Goals made and micro movements celebrated.

I am a business woman. I am a brand. I am driven and tenacious. I can be lazy and forgetful. I am Vickie R Williams Cullins, Executive director of OPN-Door Communications LLC. I amazing.
I own that. I am that. I will continue to be that!!

At least once a week, take a moment and be quiet. No sound. Reflect on the week. Review issues. Just think. With tea or coffee or juice or water. Inside or out. Just the quietness. .the stillness. .helps purge and reopens your mind to the fact you are amazing. .gorgeous. .needed..important. .viable...
You...are...all...that.
Vick the Communication Diva
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Eruption

The last week, I was in turmoil due to my choices and others reactions. I have a fixation issue. I fixate on missteps until I make myself sick. I try so hard and and I take it personal. Then I steal myself up to erupt. However, my issue is in no way that serious. It can be fixed with honesty and openness. If money  is owed it will be paid. I poised myself for eruption and did not have to.

Now, Baltimore is in turmoil as was Ferguson. This turmoil, this pain, this eruption is serious. People are hurt. Again, police and death are at the core; however joblessness, hopelessness, racism are the sores that have become infected and the pus of pain has come gushing out.

Pointing fingers won't help. We got to be calm and offer solutions. We are all one incident away from kaos; what are you going to do? How will you help? Are you part of the problem? Are you part of the solution?

Vick the Communication Diva
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Leadership & misteps

Planning. Flexibility. Leadership.
Misteps. Mishaps. Leadership.
Leaders are like willows. They move and bend. They are resilient.
They cannot please everyone  and they should not try.

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The Rock, The Strong One

Are you the strong one? You know the one everyone comes to for everything.  Yep, me too.

I am thankful for my strength, but I get weary. I say I can do something  and folks draw  on this. I am learning that I cannot take everyone's stuff  on. I get it. I do.

I am learning the strong one needs a hand to hold, too

Vick the Communication Diva
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Chasing the opportunity

This week, I saw the fruit of my labor. This week, I made as much money as I had working for the state. I am at the cusp of self sufficiency.

I am at the horizon  of my bench mark. I can see my vision. I can feel my vision. I can convey my vision. I am Opn-Door Communications. I am Unique & Exquisite. I am great. I deserve all blessings.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Greatness is not a cuss word.

Greatness is not a cuss  word. Being great is not bad, but we seem to think so. We hold back. Especially,  women  ( me included).
A special  young  women told  me that I was great. I perked  up. I was amazed at my vision, my dream, my abilities. Shit, I was great.

Today look in the mirror  and Say, I am____insert Name here____Great!!

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Keep the Faith

After the tragedy  of yesterday,  I  was blessed  to receive  good news. One of my  sisters received great news about  her health. I received  confirmation of yet another  parenting  participant. I learned that I can foia a completed proposal  and I  will learn from someone I  knew. I received  guidance  from a mentor. I am being  considered  for another  opportunity. A part time hustle is on the horizon. Small projects  are building. I have a team that I am working  with. I am building  a brand. I am becoming  focused. I am keeping  the faith.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Wow

A baby died. Yesterday  a preteen, died. Gangs invade our homes. Nothing gives you the right to do this.
Blood shed, washes away all accomplishments.

A baby, a preteen died, yesterday...
😢

Vick the Communication Diva
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Reconfiguring

Planned to do many things. Want to do right. Try to be fair.  Did not do my due diligence.
Stumbled. Learned. I must set deadlines. Hold folks to them. Must say no.
Stick with the deadlines.  Show commitment. Ask for commitment. Request accountability.
Clear directions. Clear deadlines. Concrete deliverables. Tough week, but I am Williams tough and Cullins savvy. I reconfigure. I recommit. I learn and apply. I had a tough week. I stumbled.
I recovered.
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Valleys..trials..weather the storm

As we age, we endure greater trials. Health, work, joblessness, loss of love and loss of life. We also grow in our courage, our faith and our tenacity. It is not a case of this to shall pass, it is a case of I will weather the storm. To all my friends and family going through a dark valley, a health valley, a work valley, a loveless valley, you will weather the storm. You will have scars but you will also have muscle and the strength to carry on and over.
We press on.

Friendships

Friendships are fluid. They move and morph as life changes, as you change. Friendships are not competition, at least they shouldn't be. Friendships, true friendships exist on the air of faith. Honesty, loyalty and love. I have lost a few friends...but was it really a loss or a skin shed. Friendships are free to breath,they are not stifled or contained. I am blessed that I can be me amongst my friends, can you be you amongst yours?

Vick the Communication Diva
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Focused

Stay focused.
Stay driven.
Stay in the game.
Just stay.

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Failure is a process and Faith is your life boat

We have all experienced failure. We stumble. We fall. We think that failures will smother us. We focus and fixate on loss. We compare and are eaten up with jealousy and envy.

We think that we are treading water. We think that we are doing nothing. We think that are failures are our shackles; shackles with no key.

Faith. Faith steps in. Faith is our life preserver. Our life line. Our lifeboat. Faith is not magical. It is the courage to stand, when you want to crumble. It's the tenacity to look a chronic illness in the eye. It's the steadying of the legs after you have been told to leave a job, your home or your spouse. It's the backbone that holds you up as you face a judge.

Faith is always in you. You just call on it and it will come.

Vick the Communication Diva

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Follow the rules or create the rules

I have learned a lot in the last few weeks. Stay focused. Provide clear direction. Learn from the experience. Own the experience. Don't regret the experience. Ask for the opportunity. Don't block the opportunity. Listen and receive peoples actions.

I see the opportunity. I respect your rules, but I choose to create mine.

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Fear

Fear “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”  ― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

Rules, Normal, Unique

Everyone is an expert on how to start a business. Everyone presents a rule book on how to create a workshop.  Everyone has a guidebook on how you can make a million dollars doing xyz.

Just remember you are unique. Rules are guides. Take the advice and make create your own destiny.

You are unique. You listen, you learn and you create the project uniquely designed for you.

Stumble... Fall...get up..and do it all again until you reach that goal.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Priorities

I received invites to events. Events that would give me great networking opportunities.

I also had a presentation due for my mentor. I had time to complete it...but I shifted priorities.

This event just came up. This deadline was Monday. My mentor adjusted her schedule to accommodate me.

My priority shifted to complete my presentation. I am glad it shifted.

Know your priorities. Know what's important. Choose.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Business or Buzinezz

The last two days have been interesting. I am a business woman. A woman of character. My word is my bond. It takes a lot to take me out my character. Acting in shady secretive manner will do it.
Thank God, for a referral from my little bro...and for creating a relationship with the sons of blood and thunder and a man on the square.

I have learned ..share enough info to get them interested and you serve as the gate way to make and cement the connection.

Business 101 everyone who is friendly ain't your friend. Instead, look to your peoples who have shown their true colors..lean on the shield and search for the square.

Folks show you who they are, believe them, but don't let them take you out your character and don't get in your feelings about it
.....its simply Buzinezzz.

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Loss-opportunity-disappointment

You try and nothing comes of it. Someone lends a hand and you see hope. You feel as if you have positive impact. You feel good. Anger and nastiness is kicked in your face, like sand on a beach. A challenge you were unprepared for, weighs you down. You follow through but receive no follow up.
You are mentally and physically exhausted.
This all happened today, agggggh!!
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One

Yesterday, I read an article about a man considering suicide. The police officer asked for permission to talk to him. He didn't talk, he just listened. He reached out. The man in pain held on. He gained strength and has continued to fight. He reconnected with the police officer and they became family.
I truly believe that one person can make that difference. Sometimes, we have to have the strength to reach out and be that one. Sometimes, we have to reach out for that one.
Will you be that one?
Vick the Communication Diva
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To be seen or to be influential

I am an extrovert. I want to be seen. I want to be heard. I also want to be impactful. I cannot always be the face or the voice. I can always be impactful. I dream big. I am a visionary. I often want folks to hear about my dream and implement it. Simply because I have lazy moments and need a staff.
More often than not we watch folks be recognized. Their picture is on the magazine or their voice is on the radio. We wonder who hooked them up and why ain't I being recognized. The question are you doing for the accolades or the impact? I have had to quiet the roar of fame and be comfortable with the silent strength of impact.

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#besombody

This is interesting. A start up who also was on TED talked to students about being someone. But he came off as pompous.. Elitist and unrelatable. The #besomebody did not resonate..because I am somebody.
These students threw him under the bus. The disavowed his message and parodied his talk. He became defensive and hostile.

Well, out of conflict came clarity.
You are somebody. My goals don't have to be yours. The other day, I spoke to returning citizens and I guy said I am just a convict. I said nope you are not in jail. You see, you have to rebrand yourself. You have to redefine your self. His goal may be just to not commit another crime...not mess up today...just today.  That is success. He is somebody. We all stumble. We are lazy. We set goals. We make them and miss them. We reassess and stumble to them again.
So never let someone tell you to be somebody..you are somebody..you just have to be the somebody that works for you. You just have to be.

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Selma 50 and me

3/7/15-50 yrs..bloody Sunday
Selma, Alabama. A black President. A young man who was beaten and bloodied on that bridge is a US Congressman.
I can work on a proposal for my business. I can sit at a table with brilliant Ecsu graduates and strategize. I can fellowship with my sorors..freely. I can celebrate my besties niece and her husband's baby. I can mc my sorors beautiful 40 th.
Yet..we are not done. Selma .
Bloody Sunday put brutality main stream... Change ..came
.We are not done. ..we cannot stop.
Fear must not stop us...
50 short years ago..black ..white.Jew..christian..stood together against legal tyranny.

But we are not done..step by step..folks are trying to dismantle.
Our work..ou r rights..we cannot stop
Let's not let this be a moment
Let this be a movement
Register to vote
Vote
Engage in your community
Vote
Speak out
Plan
Speak out
Vote
#repeat
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Commitment and Consistency

On yesterday, I recommitted to my institution.. My beloved Elizabeth City State University. I completed a presentation on a possible proposal. I recommitted myself to my personal and professional goals.

Viking Pride-85
30 yrs ago my journey into professional life started....and I am claiming my destiny
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Everybody

Everybody wins.
Everybody loses.
Everybody is going through.
Everybody chooses.
Everybody's choices are right.
Everybody's choices are wrong.
Everybody's choices are suspect.
Everybody's choices are on the money.
Everybody makes it.
Anybody is everybody.
Everybody is you.

Fear

Fear resonates in the bravest of souls. Yesterday, someone I loved dearly expressed anxiety over a new opportunity. I have been there. Last year, I had contemplated suicide, because I could not pass a test. I was not able to meet the standards that were set for me, no matter how hard I tried. I was despondent.

Everyone, is not met for everything. I know we have to try and we have to forgive ourselves if it does not work. What we should not do is give up, cause its hard. Or give in to bad habits to hide.

We can only do the best we can, while we can and for as long as we can. I was released from that job and soon my soul was at ease.

But, I still had to support myself and I was surprised  when the great JOB that I rightfully deserved did not come through. I got scared again. Fear showed up and showed out. I hoped my husband would save me. But that's not his job..his job is to support me.
I push forward. No change in circumstances will stop fear...we just have to our best to use fear as fuel to reach our dreams.

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What have you done for yourself lately?

What have you done for me lately? Janet Jackson sang. Today, turn that question inward. What have you done for YOU lately?

I updated my website. Sent out flyers. Spoke to a fellow business owner, who provided me with great advice. Set appointments and reached out for business.

Attended a budget information meeting featuring our city manager. I had a productive day, but its not enough. My business will not market itself....its up to me.

Everyday, I must ask the question, what have I done for ME lately.

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