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Thursday, December 31, 2015

New Year's Eve

New Year's Eve was always special to me. My parents always went out and brought back noise makers and paper hats.

They would wake us up, with champagne and whiskey soaked kisses. News Year's Day would consist of mommy's biggest breakfast ever.

Fast forward as a young adult, I partied at every club in hampton roads,  hotel and house parties.
I established a tradition with my 2nd niece and always called her at 12 her time on new year's eve.

Who knew that I would meet  the love of my life on New Year's Eve.
2002, Sabrina and I stay overnight at a hotel in Norfolk.

She and I walked down stairs and there he was, resplendent in Armani.  I introduced myself and he ignored me.
I lit a cigar and here he comes. Our relationship began.
Our relationship has not been perfect.  We have endured bad decisions, ugly fights, death of loved ones, loss of jobs and cancer.
Yet we are still standing. He is my best friend and the love of my life. He is the second man that I know,  I can depend on. The first was my daddy.
Here's to champagne touched kisses and vodka/gin soaked laughter.  I will be spending New Year's Eve with the most important man in my life, My husband Terry.
Happy New Year folks..go into 2016 brave and bold!!

Love you..
Vick the Communication Diva
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Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Happy bday to my Daddy, my hero

20 yrs ago my daddy went into cardiac arrest. It was his birthday. He was 64. They kept him on life support until I came home. He died on January 3rd 1996. He was a perfectly imperfect man. He was my first hero. He was absolutely the bravest man I ever knew  in my life. He would do anything to support his family. He loved and adored his wife. He took care of everybody. I could depend on my daddy. He did not do everything right but he did something he always did something. I loved my daddy. I miss him. 20 years later he still impacts my life. I also think about how he would have loved my husband. His example was hard to follow but my husband does a good job of trying to be the man that I described my daddy to be to him. I miss you daddy. Happy birthday. Love your sissy , your Vickie Boose.

My daddy overcame and stood up to things that would have broken most men. I understand now, these mistakes,  these troubles. I and my husband made them.
However,  I am resilient.  My resilience comes directly for Ray C. My work ethic,  comes directly from Ray C.

I am his daughter and baby, I am damn proud of THAT!
the Adventures of Vick the Communication Diva

Saturday, December 26, 2015

Christmas, resiliency and The New Normal

I understand for many Christmas is full of tears. I get it. I have spent Christmas balled up, face wet with ugly tears.
I had to lean. I leaned on God. I leaned on my husband.  I leaned on my Bell, Lyss and Williams family. I leaned on my friends. I leaned on THE Shield.
I urge you to embrace that you are NOT alone, but you must lean on what YOU know is true, steAdy and dependable.  I promise you that in time the pain will subside, the wound in your heart will scar and you will enter into a new normal that will be strong and full of love and powerful pleasant memories.
#Resiliency

Sunday, December 20, 2015

Stunned at the loss of a visionary

On Friday, I was stunned by the loss of one of my Sorors, Bonita Jackson Butler aka BeeJae.

I came across BeeJae in the late 90s, she had started a website known as DeltaNet. She was instrumental in the National Chapters internet presence.

Intelligent, forthright, candid and sometimes snarky, she knew the business of Delta and all its nuances and protocols.  I befriended her again in 08, in another web presence.  I soon found her to be funny and friendly.  She was compassionate and generous.  I soon embraced her humor and snarkness..she meant no harm.

I soon reveled in her internet love story, Her Larry.  He became joyfully her knight in shiny armor. I gained strength and hope from her stroke battle and hope from the love and support she received from her ,Larry.
When her mother died, I reached out...but did not follow up..I am sadden by that.

When, I learned of her kidney disease,  I shuddered as this was my mom's demise. I still had hope. Hope that with her Larry, she would overcome this too.

I was stunned to learn that was not to be. I am sadden by her passing and I am hopeful that the sorors in Delaware and the Grand Chapter come out to honor one of our visionaries.

BeeJae you will be missed and you were loved by many.

Saturday, December 12, 2015

What a day!!

What a day! 
Emotional,  necessary, educated, prepared,stumbled, apologized, was loved on,  was missed, was recognized, thankful .

Love, friendship and Loss

Yesterday, I attended the funeral of my classmates mother. It was full of love and laughter. 

I saw my mother's best friend and she hugged me so hard, I thought that I would break.
She was glad to see me. She missed me. I saw some of my mom's friends, I did not know them, but they knew me.  The smiles and looks of love, warmed my heart.

I then wondered, why is it so hard for me to reach out to these lovely people,  is it because I am envious that they are still here and mama, is not.
Its been seven years,  I got to get past that. I pledge to reach out. I don't want to go to another funeral, without having said my I love yous, in the present.