Safe haven

Do you have a safe haven? A person or a place? A place where you are comforted. A person who you trust. It could be a room or a church. It could be your boo or your friend. It could be your sorors or your sistah girls.

If your safe haven is a person or persons, these folks hold your confidence and lift you up. If they talk amongst themselves about you it is for the good of you. They collectively have come together to help you feel or do better. If you argue you are forgiven. You can say anything and be who you need to be. You do not have to be "on". You do not have to be perfect. This is a safe zone. No judgement. You have history and your history of shared experiences strengthen your bond.

You can create a place that is safe and comfortable. You cannot create people who are safe havens. This comes through trial and error. You will get angry maybe even refuse to talk for years. What I will tell you is this; the universe will bring you back together. God knows your needs. You will recognize that the conflict; although necessary, is no longer strong enough to keep you apart.

I remain thankful for my safe havens; these women hold me down and up. I remain grateful for their gifts of love and friendship.

I am hopeful that you recognize and embrace your safe havens; before it is too late.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Doubt

Don't doubt your capabilities.
No one was born an expert.
You can do this and if you cannot, you can hire someone who can.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Proposal

The last week has been challenging. I have been sick and subsequently tired, yet I have a proposal on the horizon. I and my bestie have been diligently working. We have two different styles, she is a night owl and I am early bird. She is working full time and is a full time mother. I am an entrepreneur and a wife. We are making it work. We have partners who support  us.

We are both driven and determined that the proposal will be completed on time and will be a winning proposal.

FTP
Faith-Tenacity-Purpose
Vick the Communication Diva
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Rest, relax and restore

I go a mile a minute. I am building a business. I am an officer in my sorority. I volunteer. I am a friend. I am a wife. I am a doggy mom. I am a community activist. I am all these things, but the last two days, I needed rest.
Remember to rest, if not you will be no good for anyone.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Good morning

The end of a challenging week and the beginning of a new one. Today, as I drink my coffe, I once again reflect on my mother. My mother, the accidental entrepreneur. For years my father was the provider. He owned a successful business, lost it and went to jail.

He got out and could not find steady work. He decided that my mother should start a janitorial company because as a felon, he was ineligible for government contracts. She agreed. He would be the advisor. She and I would own it.
Ok, we said. Then he got sick. Cancer and lasted 2 years. My mom was on her own. She figured it out. Figured it out and ran a successful profitable business for 10 years.

My mom was brilliant and I am following in her foot steps.

Sometimes, God divinely interferes. We must listen. We must have faith. Thank you, God...i hear you.

Thank you mama, I hear you to.

Vick the Communication Diva
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As Mother's Day approaches

As mother's day approaches, many will celebrate and many will grieve. Please be sensitive to those who lost their moms as even though they may be mothers, they miss theirs so very much.

For us whose mothers have gone on to glory, please be mindful of the universal " mothers' day salutation," especially if the person receiving it is not a mother.

For us, who have lost a child, be extra kind as though we are still mothers, it hurts.

For us, whose mothers are mentally ill or suffering from dementia, be extra kind as we miss them and we may not be able to reach them on mothers day.

Also, if you are having challenges with your mom, reach out and just say: " I know you did the best you can and I wish you well." I say that , because you may not be able to say you love them, they may not deserve your love, but most certainly do not wish them harm, wish them well...your soul will be satisfied. ‪#‎mothersdaypsa‬

Fearlessness and unafraid of rejection

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Professional Organizations

When you are an entrepreneur, you are soon to be overwhelmed with classes on how to be: in business,  get business, get contracts, get loans, keep business, advertise your business and networking.

Rarely, do you hear about the importance of professional organizations. I own a self professed communication company. I am a Mediator, trainer and workshop developer.
I have found professional organizations to be helpful. I belong to the Virginia mediation network and the hampton roads parent education network. These organizations provide me with best practices ,opportunities to network and collaborate.

Explore the professional organizations in your field as they can be an excellent tool in your success kit.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Mother's Day...is painful

I am not an orphan,  I had parents. I am not a mother, so please don't wish me happy mother's day. I had a mother. She was funny, smart, annoying, over bearing, driven, cute, loving, supportive and thoughtful.
We had the best time together. She was open to everyone and everything. She had a strong faith in God and loved her husband. She loved and supported her children. She took great joy in knowing and loving her grandchildren. She was the best mother n law. Supportive, loving and just a little nosey/judgemental.  Lol.
When she died, my world crumbled. I felt as if my heart had been snatched from my chest.
Holidays, Mother's Day and birthdays were big for Bobbie Jean.
She celebrated them and she liked you to celebrate her. Man did we celebrate her. .clothes..suits..shoes. .cards...concerts. trips..dinners..lunches. .brunches..boat rides...jewelry. .perfume..plays..massages. She would clap and giggle and laugh. Her crooked grin would warm my heart. Since she left, mother's day has been painful sometimes heartbreaking.
The ritual of celebrating her is gone.
I am not a orphan. I am not a mother less child. I am a daughter whose mother died and whose mother is missed. Missed very much.
Please be kind and empathetic to to folks who are in this position. .just be kind.

I am Vickie Renea Williams  Cullins and I am the proud daughter of Bobbie Jean Williams and I always will be.
Vick the Communication Diva
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Entrepreneurship

This is small business week. Entrepreneurship ain't for everyone. Maybe you jumped into this with flags waving and a money cushion. Maybe you were fired and noone would hire you. Maybe you had just an idea and a dream. Maybe you are a multi level marketer.

If you are doing IT, full time you are brave, you are courageous and a tad bit crazy. You should remember everyone will not believe in your dream or support your vision. Folks may attempt to dissuade you. Know your dream. Embrace your vision. Learn  from others. Stay fluid and flexible.
It's not that it  can it not be done,
It is it just has not be done yet.

To be a entrepreneur means you are pretty special. To be a full time entrepreneur means you are amazing.  A risk taker. Embrace your gifts and make it happen!!

Vick the Communication Diva
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Deepest Fear

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"