Faith

The last few days have been trying. Family is in conflict and friends have lost fathers and brothers.

Husband is stressed about my inaction so he acts out towards me. Money is tight and choices have to be made.

Then there is today; the day me and my bestie go before a group  to explain and defend our purposal.
This is a first for me, I am excited and strangely calm.

Normally, my family's pain would infect me and my husband's nasty barbs would upset me. They didn't.
Today is my day. I will step up and step out

I have learned not to allow pain to stop me. It doesn't motivate me not does it paralyze me.
That is growth.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Friendship

This weekend was wonderful. I was apprehensive, because I had a big project that I was nervous about. I did not want to be away from my husband for the weekend.

I shouldn't have been. I enjoyed the ride and the company of women that I had an unique connection with. Not only are we friends but we are also sorors. 

We have married, been divorced, had children, lost parents, lost siblings, lost jobs, bought homes, started businesses and survived chronic illnesses.

We laughed, drank, ate, fussed, hugged and encouraged each other. It was necessary for me to be there. I am truly grateful for the love.

Thank you Villa Gang, Thank you. 

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Vick the Communication Diva
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Fear mongering

Same sex marriage is legal in all 50 states. The Confederate flag is being hailed as a symbol of white heritage. Donald Trump spoke disparaging of Mexicans and was swiftly dealt with. Black churches are being tourched. The klu klux klan is marching on Charleston to save their flag.

Racist white folks are participating in fear mongering events. They want to scare folks who support equality.

They are a minority but are financially stable. We must come together and stand together against the racist homophobic zealots.

United we stand, divided we fall.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Gay marriage

I believe in gay marriage, always have. I believe adults have a right to love another adult. I believe homosexuality is normal. I support the LGBT community. Always have. I think being bi, is a bit greedy...but hey do you.

I believe in honesty. I believe that one should live their truth, without fear of harm.
I am glad the Supreme Court of the United States of America agrees with me.

I am good if you don't agree, but it is the law, so respect it.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Racism. ..Confederate flag...Rascist

When I see a confederate flag, I shudder. I associate it with, death, fear mongering and subjugation blacks. It has been a week since the Charleston murders and we now have the discussion. It was asserted that the murderer wrote a manifesto and the Confederate flag was featured on his website.

Now we take it down. Millions are still trying  to buy it from Amazon before they cease selling it. Our Governor has demanded the Confederate license  plate be removed. Other states have followed suit. Wow, the Confederate flag is going down, Walmart, eBay,  sears won't sell it.

Yet, we talking about the President using the  word nigger. A word that he is called on a daily basis. Removing the Confederate flag is a start; but not the solution. We have to have the conversation. We have to respect differences. We have to see color, if we don't we assume everything is safe and everything is ok. Well it's not.

Nine people died Last Wednesday at the hands of a young white man. This man is from the Millennium generation. The generation that grew up without only white water fountains. Grew up with the Cosby show. Grew up with Jay-Z and Beyonce and yet he was compelled to start a race war by murdering black people in a historic church.

Racism exist folks, we got to educate our children on the beauty of diversity. Educate our country on the necessity of diversity. It's not the differences that divide, it's the fear that someone different will subjugate you.

Racism is alive, well and growing. Are you brave enough within your sphere of influence to stop it?

Vick the Communication Diva
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Forgiveness

Last week, I found out my chapter soror's grandfather was killed in this tragic event.

Their family and the other families chose to forgive the shooter.

I get it. My family has experienced tragedy, as my uncle murdered my grandfather when I was a baby. My father chose to forgive his brother n law. We moved on as a family with the trajectory of our life forever changed.

Forgiveness is for the injured; for their peace. I continue to pray for their peace and strength.

Vick the Communication Diva
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Racist acts are not the acts of the mentally ill

I am still in shock about what happened in Charleston.  I can barely sleep. I go from intense anger to extreme saddness. I wonder if this is how my mom felt when she heard about the 4 little girls murdered in a church in Alabama.

I am saddened and angry. I want folks to know that while we had given a stage to a white girl in black face; a monster was plotting.

While we ignored the boiling pot of racist planning to eradicate any black man or woman attempting to just live; a monster was planning.

While our police have made a habit of killing our black women,girls, men and boys; a monster was planning and plotting.

While black America was asleep at the wheel; these racist domestic terrorist are planning a takeover. They infiltrate media and the Internet with fear of  a black planet and yet they are who we should fear.

While white America was asleep  at the wheel; their brethren have become fear mongers and because the conversation of race Is so UNCOMFORTABLE,  they giggle at the jokes and agree with the stereotypes.

Make no mistake, racist monsters are bred and cultivated to engage in these heinous acts. They aren't mentally ill. So, miss me with the excuses and speak up and act out.
Ignorance and fear creates this evil; but apathy creates the climate that allows it to manifest and explode.

Vick the Communication Diva
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