Tone-tempo-timing

You ever got in an argument that spiraled out of control.  I mean voices raised..explicit language used..names called..threats issued.

I mean you are trying to get your point accross..but the air is so agitated nothing can be heard.

The other party feels the same way..you are at an impass..what to do..oh my witw to do.

The 3 Ts

Tone-tempo-timing

The beauty of the 3 Ts is the can be used interchangeably.

In this instance timing is critical.  You both got to fall back and stop talking.  Walk away. Leave. Let the air calm down. Emotions are like tinder..If you rub them in a certain way the incite into flames. If the air is tumultuous it just fans the flames.

We want to stop it. We want to calm the air.  We want to choose a time that will be receptive of the discussion. 

Then we want our tone to be receptive. We want to pepper the conversation with positively and how it makes us feel. You know the I statements. 

Got it...Then the tempo...whew the timber in our voice must be controlled.  It should not be LOUD..or dismissive. Don't screech...now you get it. Communicate the way you would want.

Conflict is difficult but necessary.
Follow the 3 Ts and communicate with purpose and you will soon find yourself communicating effectively.

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