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Sunday, May 11, 2014

Happy Mother's day and btw I am not a fing ORPHAN!!

When my mom passed, the director of the agency said to me: "Vickie, now you are an orphan."

Well, I am not a fucking orphan. Nope, sholl aint.

Well what is an orphan? An orphan is a  child who has lost both parents through death, or, less commonly, one parent.  Well, I lost my mom at 45, so I ain't no orphan.

I am a woman whose mom has gone on to glory. I am a woman who misses her. I am a woman who cannot call her mom on the phone. I am a woman who is sad that she cannot surprise her with a mother's day excursion. I am a woman who cannot visit her mom in person. I am a woman who misses her mommy's hugs. I am a woman who misses shopping with her mommy. I am a woman who misses exploring new restaurants and plays with her mom. I am a woman who misses discussing current  events

I am a daughter who misses her mom terribly. I am a daughter who is so very proud to have had a mother like Bobbie Jean Williams. I am a woman who is very proud to say, I am Vickie R. Williams-Cullins the daughter of Bobbie Jean Williams.

Each year, it gets easier or should I say stings less.

I am no orphan, I am simply a woman who misses her mommy. Who misses her mommy even more on Mother's Day.










The Adventures of Vick the Communication Diva.

Saturday, May 10, 2014

The day before mother's day..le sigh

The day before mother's day is....
The day before mother's day is...
The day before mother's day is....
Sad
Heartbreaking
Stinging
Necessary
Thought provoking
Profound
It's been 5 years.

5years that I no longer plan an exciting day for Bobbie Jean my mommy.
I miss her. Each year I get stronger. Each year I miss her more. Each year I am thankful I had her. I miss planning her day. I just do.

I ask that you be gentle and kind to those whose mother's who have gone on to glory. The day before mother's day is a cornucopia of emotions for me and many others. 

So, just be kind on the day before mother's day.♡

Adventures of Vick the Communication Diva

Friday, May 9, 2014

Grabbing the tiger by the tail

The last few days I have been super busy!
I have had to face a fear...procrastination. I hate to procrastinate,  yet I do it constantly. 

I need to write list. I have all kind of list apps. I use them sporadically.

Why, cause I PROCRASTINATE! !!

Yesterday, I tackled 3 task that I dreaded. I accomplished 2 of them handily and the 3rd by 10:00am this morning.

WITF....

I got to grab the Tiger by the tail and stop allowing procrastination to win!!!

Adventures of Vick the Communication Diva

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Everything needs to be done now....sheesh

I have an important project on the horizon. I have to prepare and plan my strategy. It needs to be done now and I do not want to do it. Instead, I made some follow up calls, participated in a conference call,  washed some clothes, hung up some clothes, did some banking and paid some bills. I had dinner and thought about the project.

What's blocking my thoughts? Am, I nervous? Do I want to quit? Yes, I really do. I want to throw in the towel. This project is taking up space. Space in my house, life, heart and mind. It blocked an opportunity. I lost some friends and I am a little nervous.

So, I just thought. I just thought and thought and thought.

I decided to take a minute and write an outline. Formulate a plan. I know what to do and I just got to do it.

Don't let an undesirable task stop your progress. Take a breather and then write your plan of attack and follow through with it. We are often our own worst enemy. Lets put our big girl panties on and tackle that task and soon it will just be a check off the old to do list and a distant memory.

The adventures of Vick the Communication Diva.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

DO NOT LEAVE YOUR POWER ON THE TABLE-VOTE

Today is May 6, 2014. Today is Election Day in many cities. Today is Election Day in Hampton, Virginia.

Know your polling place. Have your id. Go and Vote before 7:00 PM today. Know your rights, if you do not have your id, do not leave Vote Provisionally.

City wide Elections affect you personally, DO NOT LEAVE YOUR POWER ON THE TABLE.

VOTE


Saturday, May 3, 2014

Embrace Your Power and Awesomeness

Today,  I was on a mission.  I wanted to Vote→Shop→Relay for life→see my canceranhli8tor daughter's film debut→walk the survivor lap with my soror &organize my mail....all before noon.
Welllllllll LIFE happens.
Hubby decided that he wanted
To have lunch....

So, of course I stopped to have lunch with my T.
Welll that threw me off !!
 
I was able to Vote + shop but I missed my canceranhli8tor daughter's film debut.
I was able to organize my mail.

I exercised my power...I made a choice..I walked with my Soror.  It was amazing.  She was thrilled that I was there. I WAS thrilled to walk with her cause she is my soror and friend.  Now this does not dismiss my disappointment in missing my canceranhli8tor daughter's film debut,  it just means we CANNOT DO EVERYTHING!





 
Today I embraced my power. I made certain my Voice was heard. I embraced my awesomeness and celebrated my survival. I embraced my Soror's awesomeness and celebrated her survival.  I celebrated my hubby's awesomeness and stopped my day to spend time with him. I celebrated my canceranhli8tor daughter's awesomeness by congratulating her on her film debut.
Today embrace your power and celebrate your awesomeness! !
Adventures of Vick the Communication Diva

Friday, May 2, 2014

The worst that could happen to me is?

What is the worst that can happen to YOU?
Job loss
Death of parent
House fire
Death of child
Death of house
Failed business
Divorce
Losing custody
Death of pet
Loss of home
What will you do if any or all of this happens?
Do you have a game plan? If you don't you should?  Let me share what works for me.
Accept the worst that can happen.
Envision it. Embrace it. Own the outcome. Develop coping methods.  Design solutions.  Map out your game plan. Embrace it. Own it. Gain courage from it, because although the worst that can happen is catastrophic it is not insurmountable.
You can do this.
Adventures of Vick the Communication Diva